I did not know Paul. His obituary caught my eye because he died at 66..young. I am sorry for your loss of Paul. It sounds like he was a great guy with talent.
Last yr, I lost my 66 yr old mother to pancreatic cancer (1943-2010). From dx to death..it took about 4 mos. Hardly time to process the situation. I will never get over losing her like that. She was healthy and fit and very productive..and..she was MY MOTHER.
The medical community CAN do better by these people who get handed a death sentence when they hear the words "pancreatic cancer", but for some reason it chooses not to....economics..ie: insurance company restrictions, or maybe pharmaceutical company $$$. I don't know. However, since PC is always deadly..let's face it, it really is...every person over the age of 60 should be offered a blood test every yr to detect small pancreatic tumors. I don't see how that would cost more than all of the costs of chemo, hospitalizations etc (not to mention the hidden costs to society b/c heartbroken loved ones suffer so much and that cuts into productivity) for patients with terminal PC.
I hope my mother and Paul really are in a better place. Some say so, but it is of little comfort to me..a motherless woman with two small children whom their young grandmother adored.