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My Father Loves Me, He Loves Me,
He Gets Down on His Knees and Hugs Me
My father hugs me, and sweats
we go down one step
at a time
face to face, neck to neck
My hands under his arms
my left foot
then my right foot down
my face rests on his chest
then his right leg drifts, descends
the foot hesitant, his face clenched
A long rest, and then, his left floats
joins its best friend and
his face softens, less tense
One step of the twelve-step staircase done
Five minutes later we’ve bottomed
This is fun, I say
We look gay, he frowns, out of breath
and we both laugh, till his eyes grow wet
The two doors, inner and outer
are easier, but slow
Outside we try another dance
he holds the banister with one hand
my shoulder with his other
I have one hand halfway
around his titanic belly
and the other free, if he
should begin to let go or fall
The car in the driveway with its small
unlocked door seems far away
How am I going to get in? he asks
Ass first; then one leg at a time
And slow, slow, dad, we’ve got no deadline
Eleven o ‘clock, he corrects
The doctor can’t start without us, pop, no sweat
But I am wrong, his shirt is drenched wet,
His thin hair matted, and flat
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Angelo Verga’s work, which has appeared in more than 150 poetry publications, has been widely anthologized and translated into a dozen languages. His seventh and most recent book is Long & Short, including “The Street in Your Head” (2016). He was an owner of The Cornelia Street Café in Greenwich Village, where his literary programs (1997–2015) provided a home for poets and audiences alike. He is currently a resident of Harlem, NYC, USA.
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M. C. Escher, Relativity, lithograph, first printed in December 1953.
Wow…What a gorgeous poem…and yes, “powerful”…the lightness dancing down quickly at first…slowing down…and a little “heavier” at the end…Father and Son, their roles reversed by the end…held together, by The Holy Spirit…by love/Love …thank you Terence and Angelo!
Posted by: Sr. Leslie | November 17, 2024 at 09:23 AM
Leslie---thanks, as always, for your response.
Posted by: Terence Winch | November 17, 2024 at 09:32 AM
Beautiful treasure of a poem by Angelo! With a slow snap at the end. My my my. I'll be re reading this one many times I know and it has triggered memories of my own father, and my son, which will I suspect evolve into new poems I hope to write. Thanks, brothers Angelo and Terence! Cornelia Street Cafe of most fond memories! Cheers!
Posted by: Bill Nevins | November 17, 2024 at 09:34 AM
Thanks, Bill!
Posted by: Terence Winch | November 17, 2024 at 09:55 AM
I've been a fan and friend of Angelo's for many years and it's great to see this wonderfully crafted and poignant yet joyful poem showcased here. I can see and feel every line: the tenderness, the authenticity, and how the "twelve-step staircase" evokes so much emotion between father and son. BRAVO, Angelo, and thank you, as always, Terence, for choosing such a varied mix of talented voices.
Posted by: Cindy Hochman | November 17, 2024 at 10:02 AM
Oh, and I also meant to say that artwork accompanying the poem is awesome too.
Posted by: Cindy Hochman | November 17, 2024 at 10:03 AM
I’m in tears. My own father was tall but so reduced in flesh by it
Terminal cancer my tall young son could almost carry him down the long hall
Posted by: Clarinda | November 17, 2024 at 10:07 AM
This is a beautiful, heart-felt poem.
And absolutely necessary.
Thank you, Terence for choosing it,
and most of all, thank you Angelo
for your honesty and grace.
I'm proud to meet you.
Lola Haskins
Posted by: Lola Haskins | November 17, 2024 at 10:23 AM
Thanks for tuning in, Cindy
Posted by: Terence Winch | November 17, 2024 at 11:04 AM
The Escher is a wonderful complement to this very moving and lovingly played out poem. It rings very true to my own *privilege* of “being there” (whenever I could) to care for aging parents. Wonderful!
Posted by: Thomas O'Grady | November 17, 2024 at 11:18 AM
Lola: thanks for your comment.
Posted by: Terence Winch | November 17, 2024 at 11:30 AM
Nice work, Angelo! The subtle reversal of roles is really fine.
Terence H
Posted by: Terence Hegarty | November 17, 2024 at 11:58 AM
Really beautiful, relatable slow hug of familial support. I love this poem!
Posted by: Abbie Mulvihill | November 17, 2024 at 12:58 PM
And as we all begin to be 'the father,' we thank Angelo for his grace and blessings.
Posted by: Grace Cavalieri | November 17, 2024 at 01:24 PM
The visual is another "first ever--you saw it here." We are lucky.
Posted by: Grace Cavalieri | November 17, 2024 at 01:26 PM
Angelo Verga is a terrific poet!
Posted by: Bill Zavatsky | November 17, 2024 at 04:03 PM
Beautiful, visual poem. Heartfelt description of father and son.
Posted by: Eileen Reich | November 17, 2024 at 08:47 PM
The title of Angelo Verga's poem grabbed me at the outset. Remember "Loves Me Like a Rock," the hit song from Paul Simon's 1973 album, THERE GOES RHYMIN' SIMON, and these lines: "Oh, my mama loves me, she loves me / She gets down on her knees and hugs me"? In the 36-line "My Father Loves Me, He Loves Me, He Gets Down on His Knees and Hugs Me," the first 14 lines constitute an exertive ("sweats" appears at the end of the first line) single step. The way those lines are at times unevenly aligned on the page amplifies the strain and stress of negotiating that initial step. With the son hugging his perspiring father "face to face, neck to neck," the father's "right leg drifts, descends / the foot hesitant, his face clenched." In a sense, the "twelve-step staircase" has become a kind of twelve-step, physical and emotional rehabilitation program for father-son interdependence. By line 24, it is the son helping his father down the stairs: "I have one hand halfway / around his titanic belly / and the other free, if he should begin to let go or fall." Even the bungled reassurance from the son about the eleven o'clock appointment--"The doctor can't start without us, pop, no sweat"--is immediately countered by the boy's full recognition of his father's shirt "drenched wet" and "his thin hair matted, and flat." Who's helping whom? The answer is each. Angelo Verga's poem, deftly complemented by the M. C. Escher lithograph, is impossible to forget. Great poem, Angelo, and great pick, Terence!
Posted by: Dr. Earle Hitchner | November 18, 2024 at 09:16 AM
very moving poem. I felt myself going down those steps with him as I was reading it, relief when he made it. And you.
Posted by: Linda Lerner | November 22, 2024 at 05:42 PM
WOWZA YOWZA I’m going to read this again and then again.
This poem says so much, so very gracefully
and beautifully, while it hits you over the head.
Sending thanks to Angelo for bringing this to my attention 💖
Posted by: Erika Joyce | November 22, 2024 at 10:33 PM